You just got engaged and you are giddy with excitement for the bright future that lies ahead of you. You think of wedding plans and baby names and where home sweet home will be. But before you go through all those fancy stuff, let us get dirty and practical -- start the money talk with your soon-to-be better half.
Talking about money can be the most unromantic thing but this is something that you need to thoroughly discuss. Being married means that you have to share whatever you have with your partner and it is important to know the situation you are getting into and be able to come up with your ground rules as a couple.
Be as open and honest as you can regarding your financial situation.
When you get married, everything is conjugal unless you whip up a prenuptial agreement. This means that his property will be your property and his debts will be your debts. Knowing your partner’s credit score will help you prepare for whatever future financial plans you are envisioning together. Also, make this conversation a venue for both of you to seek solutions if there are problems and not to find faults so as to always keep the (financial) communication lines open.
Discuss your spending habits.
Both of you may have different habits when it comes to spending. You may be fond of using your credit card because you like how convenient not to carry cash around while your husband-to-be likes to whip out cash. Discuss the pros and cons of each and find a middle ground on how you will be dealing with your future finances. You will be doing a lot of spending together such as paying for the bills or getting that weekly grocery so be sure that you are on the same page on how you would want to handle these expenses.
Plan, plan, plan.
Part of planning is to knowing your cash flow. At this point in time, it is imperative that you know how much one can contribute to the household budget. The next step to knowing how much you both have is to lay out a plan on how you will be spending them - will investments be part of your budget? Will you be already setting aside money for your future babies’ school fund? It is important to be very clear about these things so that you don’t fall into the trap of debt in the future.
Building a life together can be very exciting but it also comes with great responsibility. Start your future with a clear plan on how to reach your financial goals and work with your partner in achieving them. This way, money will not be a source of conflict in your relationship and is one thing off the plate as you deal with the bliss and challenges of married life.